"People who operate by
emotional reasoning basically believe that "If I feel it, it must be
true." The essential point here is that this type of cognitive
distortion states that "Feelings are facts and to hell with the
truth.""
The ultimate point here is that
feelings become fact for many reasons and emotional facts absolutely drive
behavior.
So, when a person feels a
compelling, powerful and familiar emotion, it immediately initiates a hypnotic
regression to the past where some event initially caused them to experience and
believe that same feeling as truth---even it wasn't true.
And feeling (hence believing) that
one is flawed and unworthy is a universal recipe for successfully buying into and
acting upon the self-sabotage myth.
What this all means is that
believing in self-sabotage is a world famous recipe for feeling and
experiencing the same hopeless, damaged feelings and results again and again
and again.
And take this next point to heart
please: It is said that even the most successful and happy people have critical,
inner voices-- they just don't hear them very well.
With the preceding in mind, I
invite you to explore the following simplified NLP technique with an open mind
because your brains might fall out and then you can wash them clean of old
beliefs. I urge you to use this method right now to start
changing yours or your clients' inner self-communication/self-esteem recipe.
Devin's
Brief NLP Process for Eliminating Self-Sabotage
(Please note this technique is
merely an adaptation of existing NLP technology.)
Get somewhere quiet.
Remember a time when you beat up on
yourself or just felt bad about yourself.
Focus on that inner voice that is
criticizing you. Ask these questions:
Where in my head is this voice? (Front, back, center, left, right)
What does it sound like? (Loud, screeching, gravelly, etc")
What does it look like? (Let answers just flow)
Keep in mind that you are to just
give a best guess to these questions.
