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Self Sabotage and How Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Can Eliminate It

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Thinking that you have flaws reinforces the idea of a deep unworthiness because a flaw is intrinsic and hence, very tough if not impossible, to change.


The point is this: Thinking that one has flaws is emotionally crippling because it perpetuates the whole self-sabotage belief pattern.


What if, instead, you (or someone you know) had "growth opportunities'?   Doesn't that feel better?   Can you see how that label makes much more sense?  


Many people feel this new definition click into place because they deeply sense (in spite of an inner critical voice) that "growth opportunities" is a true description of reality.


Isn't it true that flaws are limiting?   However, "growth opportunities' nicely invite a person to accept that their current behaviour is what it is and that it does not have to be permanent.   The great thing about this more accurate perception of reality is that it gives a person a real opportunity to grow and change.


Now, let's get back to self-sabotage.   As I said, it is a state of inner miscommunication based on an inaccurate message of worthiness that originated from some time in our past. In other words, we have learned to incorrectly talk to ourselves about our-Self.  


And keep this important fact in mind:   As children, we are born with the tendency to like ourselves.   However, "as the twig is bent, so grows the tree" and most of us learn to talk to ourselves in ways that do not affirm our self-worth.  


In fact, some of us learned at a very young age that we, for some inexplicable reason, are born with terrible flaws and hence are unworthy.   (Womb experiences are very important but beyond the scope of this article.)

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Devin Hastings, NGH Board Certified Hypnotist and instructor, Fellow of Association of Professional Hypnosis and Psychotherapy and Winchester Hospital certified hypnotist, is the president of the Minnesota Institute of Advanced Communication Skills (more...)
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