Sure you can analyze the
"why" of why you talk to yourself that way but sometimes, it just
best to do something positive and avoid the "paralysis of analysis"
created by blue sky questions.
The thing that is utterly important
to this profoundly simple technique is that you are interrupting (in a
positive way) the pattern of your usually automatic response and
acquiescence to a harmful post-hypnotic suggestion.
This harmful post-hypnotic usually
goes something like "You screwed up again and this proves you are
irredeemably flawed because you can feel the "rightness' of your wrongness
(unworthiness)!"
So the next time you start beating
up on yourself, positively change something about the process and you will
discover the true meaning of this quote: "Fear knocked at the
door and when Faith (positive action) opened it, there was no one there."
C. Devin Hastings
"Speak well to yourself
because your deep mind is always listening."